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From time to time I read an article here or there dealing with relationships that I feel apply to my life and I am wondering, due to a lot of misunderstandings with my wife, if anyone else would be interested in these things.  I am not claiming to be a counselor, with my track record, I would consider myself someone in need of good advise.  I know that I am not perfect and my wife must have a lot of patience to deal with some of the things that I do and well as I have to deal with some of the things that she does.  But in the end I think that it is about communication that keeps the marriage or relationship alive in anything, and the willing to make sacrifices.  Also knowing when to give in and when to set the proverbial foot down with a decision is made.  But with this said here is a small bit that I thought should be passed on.

http://www.sundayvision.co.ug/detail.php?mainNewsCategoryId=7&newsCategoryId=525&newsId=625832

And I have just a few things also about relationships that I wish to state at this time.

1. Women, men are not mind readers, we can ask what is wrong if we sense it but unless you tell us we are no going to know.  Also if you say that there is nothing wrong then don't be suprised if we act like nothing is wrong then.

2. Men are men that are men, if there is a good looking chic in the area, we are going to look, I am sorry but this is just us being who we are. (special note to men: just don't over do it, cause then you will never hear the end of it)

3. Women should not ask us about their weight unless they want a real answer, and we are blunt about things so don't expect us to be like your girl friends and say something like "That dress is a little tight though"  We say things like "No don't wear that dress, it is cutting off your circulation.

4. Guy time is guy time, this means football, racing, billards, etc with the boys.  It gives us a chance to unwind.  It does not mean that we love you any less.

5. Family should be respected, but there should be some alone time also, so don't bring your family ever where you go. 

6. If a woman wants to be treated like a queen, then she should first respect herself like a queen.  Take care of yourself, and expect the same from your man, no matter how long you have been togather.

Okay and with this I will stop while I can and think that I am partially right.  I know I am going to get some backlash on this one, but there is some truth to it.   

M_M - Is this battle still raging?  Too tired to enter into the forray, maybe next year...

 It is not like u, SB, 2 shy away from a debate.  Way 2 go M_M...

hehehe.....wat is that saying about monkeys and forests!

The battle is still raging on, with both sides lossing the fight but still claiming victor.  But what was more important was the first message that was posted.  Men and women both have our faults, but it is the compassion and understanding that we have that enables us to live and need each other.  And it is what keeps us togather, that and communication.  Useful communication in which you hear what the other person is saying and not just waiting so that you can cut with a knife using your own words as weapons.  Ah but I think it comes down to being hurt somewhere in your life that allows you to see your faults and know that you can't always be right.  So times you have to give in, sacrifice and compromise for the ones you love.  But then . . . . I AM ONLY A MAN.

 Here’s what’s been cited to be as advantages to dating a boybabe…

1. All his ex-girlfriends are schoolgirls with Saturday jobs, so you won’t feel intimidated by them.
2. He has a lovely lean body – the puppy fat has fallen away and the beer belly isn’t due for another five years.
3. His heart has experienced 10-20 years of relationship hell than the average older man so it’s still squidgy and available, not cowering beneath the ribcage.
4. Dating an older woman is every young man’s fantasy – suddenly you are Isabella Rosellini/Demi Moore and you didn’t even need surgery.
5. He brings out the frisky, live-for-today, kiddy playful side in you. (Just as well because being mature around him would make you feel like his mum.)
6. He thinks that by your age you’ve tried every sexual position (twice if you like) so he tries extra hard to impress you in bed.
7. He’s so easy to buy presents for - a little bit of Tommy Hilfiger goes a long way.
8. Young guys totally dig equality with women – they’re not as confused as thirtysomethings about the role of men and women today. As far as they are concerned, there are no rules.
9. He’ll stay up all night eating Haagen-Dazs, watching videos and snuggling you because he doesn’t have to get up for work the next day. (And even if he does, he can survive on two hours’ sleep.)
10. It does your ego good – why do you think older men have been dating teen bimbettes for so long?

What say you?

Age doesn't really matter because you are as young as you feel.  I must say that ladies of a younger age does have that sex appleal, but as I increase in age I am more interested in a lady that knows what she wants and we have some of those in common.  Financial security, intellegent conversations (there is no meaningful conversation involving what happened last night on "American Idol"), business, the world's problems, politics, self improvement.  Things that often are often talked about at a younger age are : lip gloss, he said/she said antics, what disco is the best, eating out and spending money.  But I do have some problems with the above.

All my ex-girl friends are in university or married with kids                                                                                                                                              

My body is okay, and I wish for a beer

My heart has experienced the relationship hell but my mind says why not (glutton for punishment)

Dating an older woman (yes I always wanted a sugar moma)

I am frisky and playful, my mind is trying to kill my body, so yes I go swimming in Lake Victoria, bungie jumping, racing my car

At my age, I know what I can and can't do, and what I am willing to try, and what puts a smile on my face

Equality of genders - at thirty and after one failed marriage, I know what I want and that is equality, my wife to take care of me as I take care of her, equal responsibility.  If I am working and we have no kids then she is also working and not occuplying space on the couch till I return home.

My wife is asleep before me, so I don't know about 9.  I put in a movie at night and she is asleep before the begining credits are done

My ego is so big that it is self sustaining now.

You know when you do meet the right one! its like a lock and key.

Think about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just to clarify, my new sig has nothing to do with this thread