good news
I got some news today that one of my nieces is going to hold an introduction ceremony back in Ug. Although I am very happy for her and in some way proud, I cannot but help feeling left out. See, I'm her mum in a way (my older sister was her mother) and although in Kiganda culture I would not be present at this ceremony, nevertheless I'd still have wanted to be there physically to see her off.
But then a thought came to me in my morose moods. Perhaps it was just as well I wasn't there to see her off to this event. After all - I know I have a big mouth and would no doubt speak ma mind if I felt something was out of place. It's all well and good being a good meek woman, but I find keeping my trap shut when I sense something just isn't adding up is a huge challenge to overcome! Try asking those who have crossed my path - I'm sure they have plenty to tell on me! I need prayers people I tell ya! Saving is the word!
As I was saying, perhaps my being out of Ug when my niece does her thing is a blessing to her. My presence might have had perhaps a negative effect to her ceremony for all I know! I still want to be there though - but hopefully not like that Pauline character out of Eastenders! God that character is awful and I pray I never become like her - or please somebody shoot me if I start sprouting similar behaviour. Understandably poor Ian Beale was screwed up - with that kinda of genes who could avoid being anything but that! BTW I caught up with this soap drama today and my kids were climbing the walls explaining to me what was what! Bless!!!
How many time have the well intentions of relatives been the onset of many relationship breakdowns? Though saying this I fully understand why brothers don't interfere at times in their sisters relationships. As sistas, I have a question to ask fellow sistas. How many of us have had hissy fights or watever with our men, rushed home to our relatives and blabbed how ghastly our men had been to us and have our relatives draw up battle lines which we in turn have gone to cross on realising we missed our guys so much nothing else mattered! Kinda reminds me of when my elder sisters apparently used to escape through windows to meet up with their soon-to-be hubbies after fights!
All in all, I am celebrating the good news with two hearts but one is going to have to win. That of the proud mum that her child has found a mate she is happy and confident to spend the rest of her life with - for her sake, I trully hope this is the case!